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Open Letter to “100 Days of Real Food”

22 May

In this post, you will read an email I wrote to the authors of 100 Days of Real Food, a popular blog about cutting processed foods out of our families’ diets, after they blocked me from commenting on their Facebook page. What did I do to get blocked? I responded to this comment: “I just had lunch with my daughters at school, and it’s amazing how some of the ‘packed’ lunches are FAR worse than what the cafeteria provides. Makes me sad for those growing, active kids who get very little (or no) ‘real food’ all day long.”

My comment, which they hid from the Facebook page within an hour, was along the lines of: “This sounds very judgmental. Many families don’t have the access you do, and you are making gross assumptions about other parents.” I’d like to  post my actual comment along with this email so that you know exactly what I said, but they deleted it from their page and blocked me from ever commenting again. Their Facebook post really bothered me because the assumptions white women make about “other people’s children” aren’t fair and don’t take into consideration systemic issues related to racism and poverty.

So I sent 100 Days of Real Food an email to voice my concerns, and this is what it said.

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Holy Crap, I Got Freshly Pressed…

10 Feb

FPSSWow. I’m blown away by the response to White Mom Blog. I started this project a month ago and didn’t know what Freshly Pressed was. Now, thanks to Freshly Pressed, I have a larger base of readers that I am excited/nervous/thrilled about. Thank you and welcome!

I started the blog for several reasons. The first is that I have been thinking about issues involving race and whiteness for years now. I’ve written several papers for graduate school and researched as much as I can on whiteness and white privilege (just a heads up–there’s not much out there). I wanted a base for the questions I was asking myself. The second is the added complexity from the birth of my daughter last September. No one could have prepared me for how much questioning and reexamining I would be doing as a new mom.

So many articles, websites and mommy blogs don’t resonate with me–the Photoshopped pictures, red lipstick and vintage matching outfits feel so foreign and unrealistic. The formula is the same for many sites: a white mom (although race is never mentioned) writes about her life, she has several kids, uses lots of colorful photos, and employs a mix of humor or sarcasm to finish it off. I read and ask myself, “Is this what I’m supposed to be?”

People have commented that I seem narrowly focused on race. I can understand why they feel that way. However, there are so many different ‘isms’ that intersect in our lives that we really can’t talk about one without the other. Racism, sexism, ageism, gender discrimination, poverty–these are all topics that will be explored here. But I’ll do that with a lens of self-reflection as a white woman trying to raise her child to be social justice-minded in an increasingly segregated city.

Teaching White Privilege in Education: Is it Important?

23 Jan

The other day, I came across a tweet about a Wisconsin school being investigated for teaching white privilege. Apparently, a parent at this particular school became very upset after reading the content of a course her son was taking titled “American Diversity.” The mother felt the curriculum was being used to teach white students that they are racist and oppressive. She also felt the lesson on white privilege made her son feel unearned guilt for being white.

I can’t speak to how the material was presented or what the exact lesson plans were, but my takeaway is simple: kids aren’t the only ones who need these lesson—adults do, too.

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Race and Band-Aids. Does it Matter?

2 Jan

I got hooked on mommy blogs in 2008 when I watched my niece and used my brother and sister-in-law’s computer. My sister-in-law had a few of these blogs bookmarked on her computer. I didn’t even know people blogged about being a mom.

I’ve read mommy blogs about parents who lost a child, families managing care for a child with a disability, and one where the parent is working through struggles of their own. Many moms are amazing photographers with beautiful pictures of their children doing crafts or going to the beach.

All of the blogs I have read are written by white women. White moms.

They are all in the top 100 mommy blogs of 2012, according to babble.com. I read somewhere that out of the top 100 less than five talk about race. They are all blogs written by Women of Color.

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I Want to Talk About Race

1 Jan

Where to begin? I’ve been thinking about this project for some time now. I’m hoping White Mom Blog can be a place for questioning, honest reflection, growth, or even just a place to build community.

I want to talk about race.

I want to really talk about race.

I want to talk about race in regards to white privilege.

I want to talk to white women about race.

I want us (white women/white moms) to think about how we contribute to and perpetuate white privilege in our families, communities, schools, work places and beyond. I want to know how we will talk about race with our white children.

I want to hear from Women of Color about their experiences. I want to really listen. I don’t want to shut down when I hear something that makes me feel bad or guilty.

I want my white daughter to grow up thinking about race.

I guess that’s my starting point. Thank you for joining me.

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Celebrating familia & culture in South Texas.

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